Dating to diapers
Basically having the birds and the bees book mysteriously showing up in our rooms when we're 12 or so, with no additional conversation or follow up?AND, it's really the only option out there, at least the only one I could find.While I had a hard time with the concept of out and out telling your child the details of actual intercourse (not until the age of 8 or so) her explanation seems very logical -- better from the kids to hear it from you than from someone they don't trust.And don't we all want to do a better job talking about sexuality with our kids than our parents did?I really liked the questionnaires that she offers in each chapter, it's a great tool for defining An interesting overview of how to consistently, accurately introduce sexuality to your kids, while gaining their trust, and encouraging them to talk to you about sexuality.I was nervous at first when I saw that she's a minister, thought the book might be too religious, but as a Unitarian minister AND a mother of 2 kids, she did a great job of being impartial and open to all perspectives and values.Millions of Americans know Debra Haffner from her appearances on Oprah, Dateline, Good Morning America, 20/20, and other national media such as Time, Newsweek, and USA Today.Whether she is discussing how to help kids deal with the onslaught of sexual messages they see in the media or providing sensible guidance on teaching the facts of life, Haffner's values-oriented appr Millions of Americans know Debra Haffner from her appearances on Oprah, Dateline, Good Morning America, 20/20, and other national media such as Time, Newsweek, and USA Today. She really upped my confidence for being able to raise sexually informed kids.
She also gives some very specific dialogs for conveying family values about various topics, from TV, to how to dress, to looking at Playboy or other adult magazines to dealing with sexual orientation.
I really liked the questionnaires that she offers in each chapter, it's a great tool for defining your own values.
I also liked the guidance she provided on terminology for body parts, and what level of detail and explanation is appropriate by age group.
So we can't shut down these conversations o I actually enjoyed reading this book. I appreciate that she acknowledges that these talks can be incredibly uncomfortable for the parent.
She doesn't make me feel like a loser for not looking forward to any of it. We want to make sure our kids feel like they can talk to us about this stuff.