Dating with benefits
This doesn’t mean that you’re cold, distant or treat them like an object. If you follow rule #5, you will most likely avoid this entirely. You’re not bringing your problems into it and neither is he. Similarly, you are not arguing with each other or putting expectations on one another.It simply means that you limit how you relate to them… If you notice strong negative feelings coming up in yourself, it’s time to end it. With all this in mind, this is why the next rule is super important…and they succeed if the other person isn’t in a stable place herself.
Now, I understand that some of you might be reading this article specifically because you are sleeping with a friend and you want it to become something more.
Yes, I’d be happy to share the best friends with benefits rules so you can hook up without things being complicated.
It’s certainly possible, but it requires that you look at things honestly and set clear boundaries for yourself. (aka: how to have a friends with benefits arrangement without drama, difficulty, or disaster) This means no neighbors, no co-workers, no ex-boyfriends, no guys that are currently your friend and no people within your social circle.
If you feel you need to connect with someone as a friend… If you feel like you want a boyfriend, then start a relationship with a guy from the foundation of creating that kind of relationship.
As a rule, though, never put your FWB into a role that is outside the arrangement (which is pure sexual enjoyment and exploration).