People don't seem to want the same long term commitments that I do, because they are happy with regular sex and friendships.On one hand I'm glad they are happy and don't feel the need to cave to societal pressures about needing a partner.My experience in the dating world in Saskatoon as a professional man in his mid twenties has been either broken women looking for someone to "fix" them which ultimately means dragging you down with them, looking for a handout in the form of money, drugs, booze, etc, looking for a hookup or someone on the side (read: overly superficial and/or self-centered), and window shoppers waiting for the perfect one to come along. Moreover, I don't want to deal with a constant flow of "baby daddy" issues that seem to be disturbingly present in single moms all throughout the 20s.Of course, that's not to say I have it all my damn self, but it seems to be slim pickings for people who aren't clubbers looking for hookups on the regular. That may be something that certain types of people are okay with. Even on a friendship level I have zero interest in being friends with someone with kids.
I thought I was reading a post about myself for a second until I got to the cooking part. I think the biggest problem with online dating is there is a lot of selection and people have a checklist that they go through, either consciously or subconsciously, with attractiveness being at the top of it.As a simple example, say a guy likes video games and that is listed on his profile.A girl might see that and go, "NEXT", when in actuality their personalities could be a match and the 4 hours a week he plays would have no impact on the relationship.I don't really have a suggestion for a solution since I am kind of in the same boat.Meeting people through friends and activities is good but a lot more difficult to achieve.